So I read it on Facebook today; you know one of those “shared” pictures which flood your homepage just cause some dick had all the time in the world to hit the share button on every picture he thought was so drastically-life-changing&relevant to everybody on his friends list (mind you which he is so pathetically wrong to assume). And it went like this …
“A good boyfriend will never wanna change anything about you; except your last name”
TOUCHING TO SAY THE LEAST.
However least I won’t say; cause I have so much more to say to this nonsensical statement made by some imbecile who probably is a girl who maybe wanted somebody to lie to her that she is perfect the way she is and she need not even make an attempt to be a better person just cause she was lazy for that matter. Or it could be a guy who thought girls are happy being content; all they think of is “his last name with my first name” and shit.
What got me so worked up is that whilst as children, students, employees, humans we are always reminded to “strive to be better” at what we do, however when it comes to relationships we are told to be content with that person who will accept us with our flaws.
This whole idea is so flawed that it makes me feel I’m gonna throw up what I had for dinner (which was some excellent mutton curry btw) that’s how sickening it is.
There are days when I can’t get enough of myself, bragging around “I’m the awesomest Person alive”; then there are days where I feel like shit. There are days when I can go up to a sucker and tell him to suck on it; then there are days I shut up and choose to do nothing about it. There are days when I’m so happy to be me; then there are those days when I don’t want to be me.
There you go. I change from one moment to the next. I can make you laugh so hard you could forget your pain, or I could hit you so hard I’d be the cause of your pain. I’m sure it’s not just me, it’s everyone of us. We change. We screw up, we learn.
Maxwell was right after all when he said, “Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.”
You might think – “What audacity she has to say something so unromantic-ally rude and not so pleasing to the ears!Love is the holy of holies…..love IS blind….deaf….accepting….welcoming…..being content.”
Well I’m a romantic at heart, believe me. However I think I would not like to be stuck with someone who is content with me the way I am because I’d not be content with him for being content with me.
That statement in BOLD and italics above was about some regular “good boyfriend”; But you wanna know what a “Great boyfriend” would do?
He would not tolerate your mediocre BULLSHIT and be the first person to ask you to notch up your game. Not cause he is demanding but because he knows you can do better.
He would call me you on your bad moves and not sugar-coat it saying “baby it’s okay, we all mess up BUT I STILL LOVE You”, he’d watch you as you cleaned up the mess maybe even lend a hand and also love you while you were at it.
To put it in simple words – A great boyfriend will challenge you to be a better person and he’ll love you whilst you’re trying to be that better person he believes you can be.
Anyway why settle for a good boyfriend when you have an option to go for the great one?
P.S. If you are a guy and happen to be reading this, well just use your imaginative visual skills for a minute. Strike off the word “Boyfriend” and replace it with “Girlfriend” instead.